WHY AM I STUCK?

You’ve tried to change your eating habits before.

But you keep falling back to the same old thing.

I know, I know. I’ve been there.

I was 51 when I was stunned seeing myself in a family photo: I looked so old and tired! But I shouldn’t have been surprised: that’s exactly how I felt.

I’d tried to lose weight so many times, so many ways, and nothing stayed done. I was starting to think I needed to just accept the fact that after 50, I was going to be achy, tired, slow, and needing extra-large clothes forever. It was depressing.

It was also a lie.

One year later, motivated by my daughter’s upcoming wedding, I decided to try one more time. I stumbled my way forward, and eventually found something that worked for me. This time felt really different! I thought it was the diet.

I was wrong.

As I began to teach other women about the diet, I recognized in their lives that finding the way of eating that works for us is just one piece of the puzzle. Looking back at my own life, I saw the same thing. There are other non-diet pieces that are just as important to long term success.

Later, I stumbled on a book by three psychology researchers, who explained there are actually several stages to making a major change in our lives, and that most people skip steps 2 and 3 — and that’s what hijacks their success. Also enlightening: tools that help in later stages can actually work against you in earlier stages.

As I studied their work, I recognized pieces of my own journey in their recommendations for each stage. I had found them by trial and error, but here was a road map for what needs to come first, and what’s most helpful at various parts of the journey.

So if you’ve repeatedly jumped from “I need to lose weight” or “I need to quit sugar” straight to “let’s do this,” that may be exactly the reason you haven’t been able to sustain lasting change. It’s not lack of willpower: it’s lack of the right information at the right time.

I no longer recommend one diet. I help women figure out where they really want to go, what’s going to work best for them, and then point them toward tools to help them get there. All the while, cheering them on!

What I’ve tried to do in this website and in the services I offer is to be a trail guide and a friendly encourager as you try this journey again — but this time with more direction, confidence, and hope!

Resources to acquaint yourself with this approach:

The stages — and why they matter

The stages quiz

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